I feel the need to affirm life today. This day is a sad one for me. I am feeling more this year than last. I am understanding more about myself this year than in the last two years. Two years ago today I lost my father to cancer. My father was my hero. In my mind he could do anything. He fought a courageous battle. I never heard him speak of how much time was left. It is no surprise that is how he chose to look at it. I'm not certain he ever admitted he even had cancer. I sat with him about two weeks before he died while my mother went to run errands. I was studying for finals. It was evident he was proud of my upcoming college graduation. He was interested to know what I was studying. It was Child Development one of the final classes I needed to complete my Psychology degree. We might have talked a bit about children and how they grow, I don't remember. What I do remember was he needed to eat. He was hungry but not understanding why. It was then that I knew the end was coming near. I wanted the clock to turn back. I wanted to have him teach my boys how to fix cars and build structures. While I was in class taking that very exam my mother called us all in. My brothers drove down from New York. I put everything on hold and stayed in the guest room to help Mom. We changed a plane ticket so my youngest son could say goodbye. It was bitter sweet. He had all his grandsons there before he passed. My mother told me they each spoke to him alone. They each told him he was their hero and they wanted to be like him. He was a great man. He loved his family and we knew it. We miss him. We each have our own way of grieving his loss and remembering his presence in our lives. I spoke with my oldest son about it today. He told me sometimes he just wishes he could call and talk to him. So do I.
I am choosing to affirm life today instead of letting this huge feeling of sadness pull me down. I am going to count all the ways I have abundance of life giving joy around me. Today is my younger son's fiance's birthday. She lovingly said as we were all filled with tears that early morning two years ago, "I am happy to share my day with Dave." She is a great asset to the family. Next summer she will be my son's wife. Next Friday my older son's fiance will graduate from college. She has worked hard to prove herself in life. I am proud of her accomplishments and excited to see what she does as she moves from this school to the next and earns her BA. I had a wonderful email message from a good friend this morning. Her granddaughter was born this morning!
I am grateful for life! This weekend was amazing! The sky was beautiful blue as only mountain skies can be. The grass deep green that can only be appreciated after it was covered in white for so many weeks this winter. Birds filled the backyard with activity. The cardinals were deeper red than ever before. Sparrows found bugs all through the freshly mowed lawn. Even the dog who usually wants no more than a half hour outside was enjoying the freshness of spring.I will end by sharing these photos of the flowers in my yard.
Please help me affirm life by telling someone about something wonderful. It doesn't matter who or what. Look at your surroundings, think about your family and friends, listen and you will find something wonderful about life to affirm. If you feel moved to do so please post this affirmation of life to share with people on line. You could respond to this blog post. You could use your Facebook status if you are a Facebook user. If you are one of my friends from Ravelry post something wonderful on one of the forums you frequent. Try to spread this affirmation of life in anyway you can. My father was full of life. I will continue to share that loving energy with all I come in contact with whether that be in person or online. I will continue to put forth all my loving energy into every contact I make!
Clever Chevy
5 years ago